Tuesday, September 8, 2009

Oh Misery....

13 months ago, my daughter was happy go lucky... 13 months ago, she didn't have a little brother and didn't have to fight for attention. Go ahead and call me a bad mom, but I'm having a hell of a difficult time managing this household, keeping everyone happy and pulling myself into 10 different directions.

I'm at my breaking point with this girl though. For the past month, its been hell. But only to me... out in public or at other peoples homes, she's angelic, well behaved, good mannered, just the perfect child. The second that we're home, its nothing but sass, nasty attitude and screaming. She's the exact opposite of what I know her to be, and I'm going to lose my mind.

Someone please tell me that with kindergarten starting tomorrow that things will change, I need to somehow renew my faith in my daughter, I need some sort of light at the end of the attitude tunnel...


Leslie M. September 8, 2009 at 3:35 PM  

hahahahh...... NO, it aint! hahha !!! But it's worth it Case! I remember one Christmas morning, years ago.. My oldest was 5.. and she was being a little beast!! And I looked at her and said.. "your being a JOY STEALER!!!!" Then we started to laugh! She was just being so mean and ugly.. but out in public, like you said... she was ANGELIC!!!
Why.. IDK.. but she always did me proud..
I have no answers..

I wish I could say it is a 3 week phase.. uhmmm yeah, NO!
But it is NOT a 2 year phase either...
its gonna pass.. don't make too much of it.. and don't let her steal your joy! Put a smile on your puss and be happy!

GarlicBOSS September 8, 2009 at 3:47 PM  

Counselors help during times like this

Elizabeth Mahlou September 8, 2009 at 5:54 PM  

It sounds like you think the behavior comes from jealousy of her little brother. So, yeah, kindergarten may help. Attitude helps, too. I remember with my seven children, we would all get involved in being excited about the new one (the same when I was growing up as the oldest of eight) so that the newest baby became everyone's special gift. There is about the same difference in age between my grandchildren, but no jealousy. I think you can eliminate the jealousy a lot by involving your daughter in the care of her brother. Girls are natural caretakers and love to take care of their younger siblings, at least in my experience. Is there a special time each day that could be her time to rock him? Or stroll him if you do not have a rocking chair? Can she help with his feeding? Help with changing his clothes? Putting him to bed? Feeding him? These kinds of things have made my grandson very protective of his younger sister and help him feel like he is an important part of the family. They are the kinds of responsibilities that our older children took on with our younger children. Today, in both cases, the siblings are strongly bonded -- I think the bonding came very early.

Good luck to you! And remember, no matter what, your daughter needs to know that she is loved with no strings attached. (I know, hard to do...) And also remember, there are counselors out there who know what to do if the "phase" starts turning into a "lifetime."

Unknown September 8, 2009 at 5:58 PM  

Oh honey I understand 100%!! I know when we got the 4 new kids we had some issues. Kindergarden will help and time helps the most. Sweetie your not a bad mom never ever think that!

Kristin September 8, 2009 at 9:20 PM  

I sure hope so. Seems the older they get the motre emotional she gets!

Unknown September 8, 2009 at 11:30 PM  

So sorry you're going through hell with her right now. Hopefully it's just the age and she'll get over it. Maybe try making a girls day or something and just do fun things together, even if you can't leave the house.

Liz September 9, 2009 at 10:51 AM  

All I can say is that I feel your pain, and it sucks!!

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